I have thinking lately about what we do or may carry into our interactions with others. Primarily I am thinking about being carriers of Jesus’ presence in our interactions. First, I will provide a context for the concept.
We all carry something into our interpersonal interactions. An example that has stood out to me for decades took place in May 1983 when I was 23. I had an issue and saw the Dr. on a Monday afternoon. He quickly diagnosed me with cancer. When I asked him how sure he was he said about 90-95%. I was admitted to the hospital the next day, had my first surgery on Thursday, I had a small cancerous tumour removed, and was discharged Saturday at noon and was married later that day. A few weeks later I had major abdominal surgery and the surgeon discovered a grapefruit sized tumour around my aorta, which, thankfully, he was able to remove.
Later in the summer I began chemotherapy treatments. It was frankly an awful experience, which brings me to presence. I tried to sleep as much as possible and my wife would come from work and sit near my bed and read the newspaper. We didn’t talk much, what was comforting was her presence. Neither of us were walking with the Lord at this point in time, however her presence brought a great deal of comfort. While I had been aware of various degrees of presence, this experience was what first led me to reflect on it in a meaningful way.
I had a recent experience that really highlighted the importance of presence. In March of this year, I attended a church men’s retreat for the first time. There I ran into Greg Musselman of Voice of the Martyr’s Canada. We had been trying for many months to schedule a lunch and things kept getting in the way. Now we had an opportunity to catch up.
As part of catching up Greg shared the story of a pastor from Nigeria. His pregnant wife and five daughters were murdered by Fulani Muslim herdsmen. He became embittered and wanted nothing to do with God any longer. People kept going to him and talking with him but he remained bitter. Then someone went and didn’t talk, they just sat with him in his grief and that is what opened his heart to turn back to serving the Lord. Later that evening I was sharing the story with a fellow from church and when I got to the part about the man simply bringing the Gift of Presence he exclaimed, “Of course you don’t say anything.” What was significant about this was he was from the same region of Nigeria where these events had taken place and has only been in Canada a couple of years. He understood the importance of presence.
Decades ago, I was working in downtown Edmonton and had a friend who was down there at periods of time for work. We had both been spending time focusing on our relationship with Jesus and intentionally spending time sitting in His presence. Occasionally we met for lunch and we said very little but simply sat together with a focus on Jesus and His presence was very tangible. We made room for Jesus to be part of our lunchtime.
I think the reality of this is found in what Jesus promised. In the last phrase of Matthew 28:20 Jesus says, “I am with you always, even to the end of the age.” Jesus said some things in John and prior to His incarnation He said something to Moses.
18 I will not leave you orphans; I will come to you. John 14:18 (NKJV)
23 Jesus answered and said to him, “If anyone loves Me, he will keep My word; and My Father will love him, and We will come to him and make Our home with him. John 14:23 (NKJV)
14 And He said, “My Presence will go with you, and I will give you rest.” Exodus 33:14 (NKJV)
There are many more scriptures that address this issue but if we are believers He is both with us and in us. In Romans 8:16 Paul said that His Spirit bears witness with our spirit, there is an inner awareness, which is why we can sometimes meet someone and know they are a Christian because the Holy Spirit in their spirit is bearing witness in our spirit. His presence is real with us and in us. The point of my examples above is that I believe we can be more intentional about paying attention to His presence and inviting Him to manifest His presence in our interactions with others.
So, let’s be mindful of what we are carrying into your interactions with others and seek to bring the Gift of Presence.
